My father took his last breath yesterday at 6:15 a.m.
I woke up this morning feeling refreshed and renewed. For the first time in weeks, we’ve all been able to sleep. People ask how we’re so strong and they commend us for being that way, and my response to everyone has been the same: you’d be amazed what you can deal with in the heat of the moment.
For all of us, mom, siblings, grandchildren, we’re thankful that Dad is no longer in pain. We find solace in the memories we have of him. The jovial memories we were fortunate to have created while he was here. He was a happy man, a positive man, carefree, and genuine.
Dad was our hero. He wore many hats, and he wore them well. He was our confidant, our chef, a comedian amongst other things. He taught us to be happy no matter our circumstances, and to find blessings in our misfortunes. He taught us to be good to everyone we come across, not for anything in return but he knew that sometimes people just need a friend.
All we remember are the positives. Like when he’d put on his fancy threads for church on Sunday and he’d come to the children and I and say “check out the boy, doesn’t he look good?” Or when he’d cook a new recipe and have us taste it and he’d say “it’s good right? The boy can cook.” We always teased him for that, and he would just laugh and keep praising himself.
For those of you who are saddened by his departure, I encourage you to change your perspective. My dad wouldn’t want you to despair. He’d tell you that “every misfortune is a blessing in disguise.” And while this may hurt, it truly is a blessing.
Instead focus on the life that my dad lead, how he made you feel, and anything he may have taught you. Remember the happy days that he so freely helped us create. And when you find your way to a smile, hold it there; then thank the Lord for delivering my dad from his pain and suffering. For taking him to a place where he can laugh again, tell jokes again, and just be happy again.
We have so many beautiful moments that we shared with him until the very end. So please, let this be your motivation to cherish all that you have and make many beautiful moments for yourself.